You know, I've been thinking lately, I think the problem was that I genuinely do not think hierarchically. It's not part of my worldview.

Like everyone, I get jealous through comparison. I think everyone does. But usually, the way that surfaces for me is I want [that relationship/that security/that admiration/that house/insert whatever here] for myself.

But it stops there. I do NOT go the extra step of if I don't have it, those I care about shouldn't have it or be cut down in some other way to "even the score," I'm keeping in my head. I'm not keeping score at all.